Reflective Counselling & Psychotherapy | Nicki, Psychotherapeutic Counsellor

I AM NOT YOUR TYPICAL COUNSELLOR.  
I’m going to let you into a little secret.
I’m not particularly interested in helping you become better at putting up with nonsense.
I’m not here to teach you to breathe through your feelings so you can carry on making everyone else’s life easier at the expense of your own.
I’m not going to tell you to practise gratitude when you’re absolutely furious.
And if you’ve spent 20 years being told you’re too sensitive, too emotional, too difficult or too much?
I’m probably not going to start by suggesting you tone it down.
Because here’s the thing…
Maybe you’re not too sensitive.
Maybe you’ve just spent too long having your feelings dismissed.
Maybe you’re not a people pleaser.
Maybe you’ve learned that keeping everyone else happy is the safest way to get through the day.
Maybe you’re not terrible at relationships.
Maybe nobody ever taught you what a healthy one actually looks like.
And maybe, just maybe, the problem isn’t that you need to try harder, be nicer, give more or understand everyone else’s point of view.
Maybe it’s time someone tried to understand yours.
That’s where I come in.
I’m a counsellor. But I’m also a real person, and I don’t believe therapy needs to be shrouded in mystery, complicated terminology or sitting in silence while someone occasionally says, “And how does that make you feel?”
(Although, for the record, feelings are rather important.)
I want the honest conversations.
The uncomfortable questions.
The “Oh damn, I do that, don’t I?” moments.
The moments when something finally clicks and you realise you’ve been carrying responsibility for things that were never yours to carry.
You can swear.
You can laugh at inappropriate moments.
You can cry about something that happened 30 years ago.
You can admit things you think you shouldn’t feel.
You don’t need to impress me.
You don’t need to protect me.
And you certainly don’t need to pretend you’ve got your life together.
I’m not here to make you more acceptable to everyone else.
I’m here to help you understand yourself, recognise the patterns that keep you stuck, and figure out what you actually want from this one precious life of yours.
Because being a good woman shouldn’t mean abandoning yourself.
Being a good mum shouldn’t mean having no needs of your own.
And loving someone shouldn’t require you to lose yourself in the process.
So, no. Perhaps I’m not your typical counsellor.
But if you’re tired of pretending, ready to get curious about yourself, and willing to have some honest conversations…
We might just get along rather well.  
Real conversations. No judgement. No pretending. you to feel comfortable being yourself, without fear of judgement or pressure to have all the answers.

I've worked in the therapeutic sector since 2017 and hold an Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling, a Certificate in Online and Telephone Counselling, and a qualification in Clinical Supervision. I am registered/accredited with the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS).

All your feelings are welcome here.

If you're considering online counselling, you're welcome to contact me for an initial conversation to explore what you need and whether working together feels right for you.

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